busy_i_am2007
Yes, we know what causes it!
Reged: 01/08/07
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Loc: USA
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My mom died unexpectly yesterday around 4p.m. She was only 55yrs old. She was in bed as she hadn't been feeling good for the past week, with a sinus infection and cough. My dad went to ask her if she was ready for something to eat. He said he noticed she had her 7-up bottle in her hand and when he tried to get it, she kind of had a grip on it. He shook her and she didn't move, so he turned the light on and noticed her mouth was open alittle and her face was blue. he felt her legs and they were still warm. He yelled for my youngest brother, who just moved back in with them a few weeks ago, to call 911. They pronounced her dead on the sceene. They wouldn't let any of us see her until later, and she looked so peaceful, she was laying on her side. They wouldn't let us touch her since my dad left it up to us kids if we wanted an autopsy (sp) or not, my 3 siblings and myself said we wanted one for closure.
How can I go on after this? She has been in the delivery room with every baby I have had, and this time she won't be there. I miss her so much and can't quit crying right now. I should be sleeping but can't.
My dad is having a terrible time right now, they loved each other so much. My dad is a preacher and said if he wasn't a Christian, he would blow his brains out because he misses her so much. How can I be strong for everyone and my dad?
Please, please keep my family in your thoughts and prayers.
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Amy-wife to Sean
and mom to.. 3 boys, 4 girls, 1 ~Angel~, and EDD Dec. 19, 2008
 
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Luckymama5
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Reged: 02/22/06
Posts: 2705
Loc: CT
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Amy I am so sorry to hear about your moms passing. The results from the autopsy should tell you what happened in most cases. I will be keeping your family in my thought and prayers.
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busy_i_am2007
Yes, we know what causes it!
Reged: 01/08/07
Posts: 2663
Loc: USA
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I have only had two hours of sleep last night, I just can't sleep. I feel like a zombie right now. I don't want to eat or anything. I just want my mom back!
We will be having the showing on Thursday and the furneral on Friday. We had to forget about getting the autopsy because they said it would take 36 hours before they could do it. And they said since her face, from the way she was laying, is swollen now and discolored, they would have to have a closed casket if we went ahead with the autopsy. So we decided to forget it so we can have an open casket and be able to touch her one last time.
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Amy-wife to Sean
and mom to.. 3 boys, 4 girls, 1 ~Angel~, and EDD Dec. 19, 2008
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CleverMoms
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Reged: 10/02/06
Posts: 15299
Loc: Northern Virginia
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Oh Amy, I am SO sorry to hear this, what a complete shock to your family... And your mom was so young! It sounds like she was a wonderful mother, being at your side with the birth of your children, what a beautiful memory to carry with you. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
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azdoozy
Master Bubble Blower
Reged: 04/21/08
Posts: 85
Loc: Boogie down Brooklyn NY
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I too, am very sorry for your loss, it is never easy, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, God Bless You
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P/T SAHM to 3yr. old Joey, I can make the bacon and fry it up in the pan, I just can't eat it! Loving life & my wonderful family=)
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Roosmom
Jr. CleverMom
Reged: 10/25/06
Posts: 203
Loc: Texas
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Oh Amy
My heart is breaking for you. This is such a tremendous loss to experience, especially at a time when you're expecting a new little one soon.
What a blessing your mother was to her family. What a great comfort for your father. Her legacy is truly her family, and pulling together and staying close right now will honor her greatly.
I know you will miss her in the delivery room, but you might consider taking a special item of hers (small blanket, nick nack, etc) into the delivery room to focus on when you are having contractions. It will help you feel connected.
It will truly be just one day...even one hour... at a time. Eventually, though, the hurt in your heart will be replaced by warmth and you'll find that memories bring more laughter than tears. I know, I lost my mom as well. Its never easy but it does get better.
Let yourself cry. Let yourself cry buckets until you think you can't cry any more. Get it all out...and then focus on the good times. Focus on how much she loved your beautiful children, and how much joy they brought her. As a family, you could make a scrapbook to give to your father, sharing special memories with your mom..together. Let each child decorate a page or two and narrate their special memories. This will help them heal, and become a priceless heirloom for your father.
Take care of yourself. And take care of that baby inside you. I so wish I lived near...I'd be over with dinner and a hug.
Please keep us posted. It would be great if you wanted to share some of your special memories of your mom with us.
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CupCakeCuttie
Fascinated By Freebies
Reged: 06/12/08
Posts: 1408
Loc: CA
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss. We send you and your family much love and heartfelt preyers.
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busy_i_am2007
Yes, we know what causes it!
Reged: 01/08/07
Posts: 2663
Loc: USA
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Thank you all!
Here's a photo I took of her and my dad at my brother's wedding in July of this year. She will be burried in that outfit, she looked so beautiful!
It's going to be so very hard seeing her laying there. I will touch her hand and let her know how much she was loved and will be missed.
Please keep sending the prayers, I don't know if I can do this. I have been having a hard time these past few months since losing ~Emma~ and have been depressed. I feel like I'm going to lose my mind now that my mom died. Please just pray!!
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Amy-wife to Sean
and mom to.. 3 boys, 4 girls, 1 ~Angel~, and EDD Dec. 19, 2008
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Roosmom
Jr. CleverMom
Reged: 10/25/06
Posts: 203
Loc: Texas
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What a lovely picture. You have her eyes, don't you?
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Kelly18
Mom2Emk
Reged: 12/07/06
Posts: 744
Loc: NC
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Amy,
I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult and trying time.
I know when a loved one passes suddenly and it is not expected it is devestating.
As a Christian we must remember that our loved ones are
with our Heavenly Father and no more pain.
know that your mom is with your angel Emma.
one day you will see them both again.
Please know we are all here for you.
You must go on for your family and for your dad
as well.
Take the time to cry and grief. Know that your
mom will always be with you, even though you
can no longer see her, but she will be there.
Love and prayers,
Kelly
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Have a Wonderful 2008!!!
Hugs,
Kelly
~ Proud Mom to Emily age 10 and happily married to Tim for 11 yrs and counting!!!~
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CleverMoms
Mama in Charge
Reged: 10/02/06
Posts: 15299
Loc: Northern Virginia
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Hugs Amy,
We are all here for you... thought about you and your family all day. I know today was tough.. ;(
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azdoozy
Master Bubble Blower
Reged: 04/21/08
Posts: 85
Loc: Boogie down Brooklyn NY
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Hi Amy, thinking of you, hang in there!
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P/T SAHM to 3yr. old Joey, I can make the bacon and fry it up in the pan, I just can't eat it! Loving life & my wonderful family=)
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BoysMom
Jr. CleverMom
Reged: 04/24/07
Posts: 145
Loc: Wisconsin
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Oh Amy,
My heart goes out to you and your family. I am sorry to hear of the loss of your mom. As hard as it is for you and your family, you have each other to lean on which will help you all get though this.
I truely know it hurts deep inside but I also know that as hard as it sounds now, it will in time get better. You have all the wonderful and loving memories of your mom to help you, you can know she is always with you too.
I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts, my prayers and my heart as you go through this.
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Terri
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